Hey man. Most of us would love to rock the greys & post-baby pouch but it's much harder than it seems. Here are 10 things that can make you appear less attractive. Who gives a shit? They worried about loneliness among those isolated from others, the ability to get food safely, and what it might mean to spend the entire spring indoors, unable to get any real reprieve from cabin fever. “Specifically, the most attractive physical features fall under ‘self-care’—things like good grooming, clean hair, nice fitting and quality clothing, good posture, and healthy weight.” Trust me. I have never been seated next to an attractive woman on a plane, but if I ever were this is exactly how I picture it going. I am attractive and have a great body, but I don't really have a social circle and I am not interested in bars or clubs. For the most part, I am invisible to them, sometimes even in platonic situations - all their attention goes to the pretty girls in the room, even if the setting is not romantic. Dirty or untrimmed nails. The physical attractiveness1 1 In the following, for the sake of brevity, the term attractiveness is used to denote a person’s physical attractiveness. For this reason, many celebrities – young and old – turn to plastic surgery or drastic weight loss to maintain their good looks. But I've been really destructive. This is why I have been so surprised and somewhat dismayed by the difference I see in men's willingness to talk to me as a fat woman vs. a thin, conventionally attractive one. Sorry to say but if you were actually attractive and went through life fairly typically (public highschool, living at college, etc) there is no way you would be kissless/virgin at age 30. I know many redditors have lost a good bit of weight or have gone from being a slob to a well-dressed gentleman, and I've always wondered about the difference in the way people treat attractive people. I'm going to kill myself in the next few years, 100% certain. I don't even recognise myself anymore. Get push notifications with news, features and more. I have a pretty face but I miss my old body. The women I know are all quite thin, and they regularly do this weird "omg you're so thin!" I don't get catcalled anymore. This became the case since the 1960s. Sometimes the things we hear can be brutal, even ladies who are considered "drop dead gorgeous" aren't spared from criticism. You’ve showered from head to toe, manicured, pedicured, you’ve selected your best outfit. depressed New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. I don't think this is untrue. 2. It happens.) But now, I am 21 years old. Everyone from all genders would smile at me and never put a disgusted or annoyed look on their faces. People would want to be friends with me in classes and I got smiles and winks from guys, but a year later, i am getting negative reactions from strangers and people in my college classes don't seem to be interested in talking to me. Now shallow people don't give me the time of day and it's nice. ._1PeZajQI0Wm8P3B45yshR{fill:var(--newCommunityTheme-actionIcon)}._1PeZajQI0Wm8P3B45yshR._3axV0unm-cpsxoKWYwKh2x{fill:#ea0027} ._33axOHPa8DzNnTmwzen-wO{display:block;padding:0 16px;width:100%}.isNotInButtons2020 ._33axOHPa8DzNnTmwzen-wO{font-size:14px;font-weight:700;letter-spacing:.5px;line-height:32px;text-transform:uppercase} Press J to jump to the feed. But it was as serious as an online thing can be. While oranges have an especially tantalizing effect on men, they're not the only fruit that can make a woman appear more attractive in a man's eyes. I don't really have a philosophical answer - I'm really still getting used to this and trying to process what it means about who I am and who I want to be. Ha :-) Although the idea is already taken (Think "Arsinic and old lace" and the fact that old ladies shoplifting are never caught) I think it might work. This became the case since the 1960s. It feels like I am tied to some train tracks and I could see the train coming but I can't stop it, I can't escape. So the opportunity for girls initiating was very limited. got back to my original weight and would now again describe myself as fit and conventionally attractive. Be attractive in your body language. Introduction. I went from a fairly attractive guy to not so attractive guy when I got assaulted and beat up pretty badly when I was about 21. I try not to miss my skinny body, because I obtained it by starvation and purging, and I was deeply unhappy. So its not something I can count on. Crossed arms make you look uneasy or insecure – not what you want to project. I'm very interested and curious as to what makes a design attractive and catch the eye. And, as stated, I'd been ugly and acne-ridden previously, so I could compare and contrast. Please note that I do not sit back and wait for men to talk to me. 30lbs is very noticeable when you're a tiny person. Then I had a mental breakdown and gained 100lbs over 10 years (about 10lbs/year). Kbjami brought up an important point when he wrote: "Talking about how hot Brad Pitt is. After school I started hitting the gym and transformed myself. 2019-01-30 19:18:50 Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. 2. I figured I would mention to make it clearer, for me no longer being conventionally attractive happened when I cut my hair from long and straight with waves to a pixie cut, stopped wearing makeup all the time, stopped wearing jewelry & accessories, and stopped wearing tight and trendy clothing and just started wearing cheap, casual, comfortable clothes. ._3Im6OD67aKo33nql4FpSp_{border:1px solid var(--newCommunityTheme-widgetColors-sidebarWidgetBorderColor);border-radius:5px 5px 4px 4px;overflow:visible;word-wrap:break-word;background-color:var(--newCommunityTheme-body);padding:12px}.lnK0-OzG7nLFydTWuXGcY{font-size:10px;font-weight:700;letter-spacing:.5px;line-height:12px;text-transform:uppercase;padding-bottom:4px;color:var(--newCommunityTheme-navIcon)} And I'm still sitting right there. Then I entered a relationship and gained 30+ pounds of relationship weight and was no longer fit. I used to work in a clothing store and had a blind customer who used to come in every now and then. I have no fear of rejection and I strike up conversation easily. I also put on 10 lbs and aged a bit but I think those had less of an impact. That line from the Desiderata speaks to us: Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. I also like the type of people I attract now because I don't have to worry about wearing makeup or dressing up around them to maintain the impression that I'm attractive. I was far from attractive or completely charming, but I would say that I was worth having as a friend. I was conventionally attractive and extremely fit. Search ... No one finds your stale crusty poop and TP residues attractive." She said after a certain age it felt like she was ignored, and it took her a long time to realize why. I've read a few of the top level comments, and it's disgusting how poorly some of you feel about yourselves! This didn't change until the end of my Freshman year of … It really is a win-win! .ehsOqYO6dxn_Pf9Dzwu37{margin-top:0;overflow:visible}._2pFdCpgBihIaYh9DSMWBIu{height:24px}._2pFdCpgBihIaYh9DSMWBIu.uMPgOFYlCc5uvpa2Lbteu{border-radius:2px}._2pFdCpgBihIaYh9DSMWBIu.uMPgOFYlCc5uvpa2Lbteu:focus,._2pFdCpgBihIaYh9DSMWBIu.uMPgOFYlCc5uvpa2Lbteu:hover{background-color:var(--newRedditTheme-navIconFaded10);outline:none}._38GxRFSqSC-Z2VLi5Xzkjy{color:var(--newCommunityTheme-actionIcon)}._2DO72U0b_6CUw3msKGrnnT{border-top:none;color:var(--newCommunityTheme-metaText);cursor:pointer;padding:8px 16px 8px 8px;text-transform:none}._2DO72U0b_6CUw3msKGrnnT:hover{background-color:#0079d3;border:none;color:var(--newCommunityTheme-body);fill:var(--newCommunityTheme-body)} The reason you don’t feel sexually attractive to anyone boils down to, simply, that you were born with a different sexual desire. ._2YJDRz5rCYQfu8YdgB_neb{overflow:hidden;position:relative}._2YJDRz5rCYQfu8YdgB_neb:before{background-image:url(https://www.redditstatic.com/desktop2x/img/reddit_pattern.png);content:"";filter:var(--newCommunityTheme-invertFilter);height:100%;position:absolute;width:100%}._37WD6iicVS6vGN0RomNTwh{padding:0 12px 12px;position:relative} Finally, sexy-ugly, a designation never used for women, is a critical distinction to be made about men. 6) Thinness has become attractive. He'd get off the Handi-dart and I'd help him choose out some - #200888989 added by alexthebest at Blind people of Reddit, what do you find sexually attractive? I modeled in the early 1980s. 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This is more about culture than biology. ._12xlue8dQ1odPw1J81FIGQ{display:inline-block;vertical-align:middle} I'm annoyed. My … I was disgusted with my parents smoking - the dependence and slight panic I saw in them, when they craved a smoke. We grow up being bombarded with similar almost impossible images in tv, movies, fashion, magazines, celebs, adult entertainment, etc which then transfer to society & how we see/treat/value other women in pretty much every situation you can think of, from walking down the street to jobs to even family gatherings. 2019-01-08 20:00:16 I [32 M] have been dating a person [26 F] who's almost perfect in every way, but I don't love her. 2019-01-08 20:00:16 I [32 M] have been dating a person [26 F] who's almost perfect in every way, but I don't love her. Oh, also I had an online girlfriend back in the day. I started tanning, doing my nails, and doing other things like that to compensate for how I felt about my body. Samuel Axon - Sep 29, 2019 12:00 pm UTC The desire to be attractive is natural enough; in fact, it is universal. You can use your body language to convey availability and attractiveness. I used to be fairly skinny, but pretty cut and in shape. But for various boring reasons never so much as spoke to a girl. Clearly I have no real insight.) I'm not sure if anyone will believe this, but men definitely treat me differently. This is because high feminine voices are associated with youth, which equates with attractiveness. My boyfriend and I (F) are both very conventionally attractive (not trying to sound conceited, that's just a very relevant part of this), and I've noticed that men treat attractive men much differently than women treat attractive women. I didn't think about it when I asked the question, but I guess its a crucial difference wether your were born attractive and never experienced anything else or attractiveness was something that came later. And the most common answer is: 'I worry that I'm too fat to date.' I don't care about the wrinkles. Yeah I did kind of. Now I see it everywhere. If you mean facially attractive, could you lose the fat (work out, jog etc.) People get used to the face you present them, so present one with less or even no makeup and you will be naturally beautiful to everyone. 1. I am one of those very attractive women and yes, I am aware. Two years ago, I used to very attractive that I attracted a lot of men ogling at me and even catcalls. I like the way I look now, but I'm definitely not as conventionally attractive as I was. According to my last post, the most attractive men will be liked by only approximately 20% of all the females on Tinder. I work in sales, and deal with women WELL above my age range on a daily basis. I'm not bitter or angry. Use it! Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. I am reminded everyday of how beautiful I am. 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